Cats and humans are very different. We’re pretty intense in company, talking, hugging and kissing, but don’t see our friends and family very often. Cats are much cooler. They prefer frequent check-ins but not a lot of prolonged physical interaction. Many cats regard our hugs and need for touch as oppressive and only just put up with it. They would rather be close by, reassured by a frequent word or stroke.
Better if we allow our cats to initiate physical interactions. Studies show that cats that jump up on laps and curl up stay much longer than cats picked up and placed there. The little grey cat above chose that lap and looks perfectly relaxed – and in for the long haul – there.
Cats appreciate minimal restraint and prefer to be in control at all times. They will enjoy our company much more if we respect their wishes.